When marriage goes wrong
When marriage goes well, it is one of the greatest blessings on earth. Conversely, it can become hell.
When marriage goes well, it is one of the greatest blessings on earth. Conversely, it can become hell.
Why do we marry? Jessica said it was because mum and dad insisted. Peace said it was practical to after a tiring bi-country courtship. For Sheryl, it was her biological clock. All agreed that had we delayed ten years, we might be childless.
Why do we marry whom we chose? Jessica married her first sweet heart in college. Ditto for Peace. Sheryl has had many boy friends. Her would-be boy friend did well to appear at the right time.
Jessica had three grown daughters, all away studying. Her husband made an indecent pile of money. While she tweedles her thumb late at night (he came home late most nights), I suppose it will be futile to tear petals off saying " he loves me, he loves me not, ..." But as long as he is discrete and comes home every night, she might just continue to keep the peace.
It is not productive to keep beating oneself over the mistake of choosing Mr. Wrong. One has to admit failure, and then let it go. Well, learn something and do better next time. Peace left her husband after years of mental suffering.
Sheryl ignored objections from everyone of her immediate and extended family in marrying her husband. It did not take her long to realise her faulty choice. It is unusual for a cool headed and logical person like her to go on and have four sons. If we agree that each of us is here to learn whatever we need to in 'earth school'. Then in Sheryl's case, it is 'marriage school'.
* blue lotus flower from teachenglishinasia.net
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