After being married for more than a quarter century, I neither encourage nor discourage another to enter the married state. If we are wise in choosing our spouse, it still takes much effort to make the marriage work. In some cases it takes a conscious decision to stay married.
What one person cites for divorce, another can forgive and go on. I remember a woman who brought up a pair of her husband's love children along with her only son. She had such a serene demeanour and a pair of sad eyes. Alas, she died fairly young, in her early fifties. Shortly after that, her husband followed.
Quite a number of my graduate teacher friends divorced non-contributing husbands. Yet I see my blue collar neighbour brought up two sons in spite of the fact that her husband incurred in gambling debts periodically. The gambler is in his sixties while the capable and forgiving woman is in her fifties. They are still married.
Well, all these make up our colourful and interesting world.
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