(833) Self esteem

What we are today is affected to a certain extent by what happened in the past. I have a friend whose mother married three times but none of the marriages last. In her old age, the old lady amassed all her alimony and lived very well. She shopped. She has tried every new restaurant in town. She flew oveseas at least twice a year for expensive trips. She played Mahjong and has a crowd of other ladies of leisure to socialise with.

But her daughter seemed to be suffering from her experiences. Looking at the younger person's figure and appearance, I would think she has plenty of suitors. She is smart and rose up the career ladder quite fast. But somehow her relationships with the eligible bachelors that came a-courting did not lead to marriage. She is now in her mid thirties, not quite over the hill yet.

Perhaps it has something to do with her mum's divorces, she distrusts people like police, lawyers and she is none too fond of judges. I suppose there is still some part of her that is vulnerable, the helpless little girl being pushed from one parent to another. Whether it is a custody battle or being an unwanted child, it did not help with a person's self esteem.