Our emotional state depends on what kind of expectations we have. Disagree? Let us look at the following case:-
Someone who owns two houses, one in her home country and another in the adoptive country. She came back to inspect her old residence. She expected her husband to check on her house whenever he returned. She expected her brother who house sits for her to watch over her house.
Unfortunately, her brother is a bad house sitter who added more junk to the house. Unhappily, her husband either did not notice or he ignored a leak when he returned some months ago. That leak in the roof led to a warp area in the wooden flooring. White ants set in. Now she needs to engage an anti-pest outfit to treat the problem.
She chastens her brother over his negligence. She blasted her husband over his tardiness. She worked herself into a sour mood. Actually all her out-bursts would do nothing to help the situation. The house belongs to her legally. Both her brother and husband has no direct interest. They might have treated her shabbily but they don't care how she feels. Any anger, sadness, or feelings of being let down is suffered by her alone. After all, if she can choose to be thankful that she discovered the condition before the house collapses, she would feel a lot better. Moreover, she has the means to right the problem. Shouldn't she look at the brighter side of things and be grateful to God?
And most important of all, she should fly back more often for a few days each year to ascertain that her nest in this side of the world is in good condition for her eventual retirement.
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