Monday, September 27, 2010

(137) A fresh start/ Upbringing 4

When we were still residing in Silver City, my daughter Keziah attended a girls' school. One year she chose to sign up for extra Mathematics classes. Being a homemaker, I ended up fetching three other girls to and from classes.

Let us look at one of the three girls, we shall call her Crystal. Crystal comes from old wealth. She lives in an exclusive part of town, it is almost a mansion. Her dad is a business man. Her mum is a busy professional. She has two older brothers. When she was thirteen years old, she fell into the company of a group of girls who constantly challenged the authority of their teachers. Slowly, she changed. First she cut her shoulder length hair short. Then she started having her school shirt's top few buttons open. Gradually even the buckle of her skirt is left undone.

Crystal's grades dropped. She became rebellious. The blow hit when she was caught kissing another girl in the gym. The girls involved, both set of parents were called for a conference. With parental consent, both girls were sent for counselling. I was shocked when I met Crystal about a year after the incident. Her eyes looked dead. There was no lustre, no gleam and her face was expressionless. Looking back, it must have been hell for her to be in the same school with hundreds of female pointing fingers at her as well as making snide comments.

It is now many years later, I am happy to say that her parents made the correct decision in sending her  out of state to college. She qualified for a prestigious Law program in a famous university. When we met her last week in a friend's house, she looked happy again. A fresh start with a brand new group of friends helps tremendously.

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